What Have I Lost?
WHAT HAVE I LOST?
Ask yourself what things people or hope or dreams you have lost
Now that you have “let go” of your rage and anger through forgiveness of others, and “let go” of self-blame by renouncing your hidden things of shame, the next step is to grieve your losses.
The work you have just completed are steps in dying to our natural self. With any death and with any loss, there is a need to grieve our losses.
There have been many “losses” in your life whether it was the relationship with your father that you never had, the virginity that you lost when you were sexually abused, not having a loving and nurturing home environment or the opportunity to grow up in a home with both parents present.
For those who have experienced abortion, there has been the loss of your child and there is a significant need for you to grieve this loss.
Others have experienced significant losses as childhood or teenage victims of abuse, neglect, rape, or incest, but because of society’s inappropriate responses, you may have never allowed yourself to honestly grieve over the hurt and pain.
A. What is the value of grieving my losses?
A grief loss memorial that is suggested for the closure of the letting go process.
Unresolved grief can become pathological. Unresolved grief is unhealthy. Allowing yourself to grieve your losses will be a healthy step you can take at this time.
What are some of the significant “losses” in my life? (*List these losses on your “Broken Heart” Worksheet.)
In ECCLESIASTES 3:1-4 we are told there is a “time to weep and a time to mourn.”
We even see in the New Testament where Jesus wept over the loss of his friend Lazarus.
In LUKE 19:41 we are told that Jesus wept over Jerusalem. Shedding tears does not mean that we are weak or have no control.
Quite the contrary, the ability to cry and not deny or suppress our emotions is a healthy sign of emotional strength. As you grieve, take comfort that Jesus understands exactly what you are going through and He is right there with you to offer His love, His peace, and His hope.
Isaiah 43:1-2. Why does God tell me to “fear not?”
Nehemiah 8:10. Why does God say “neither be ye sorry?”
Psalm 71:5-6. These verses tell us that God is my HOPE and my TRUST.
CLOSING THE DOOR ON MY PAST!
Due to the variety of life experiences, it is necessary to focus on two forms of grieving loss that are typical in most of the individuals using this material.
First, abortion victims suffer the loss of a baby. Second, violation victims suffer the loss
of their innocence, purity, worth, value, relationships, trust, etc.
Both forms of victimization leave a void within the person that needs resolving.
During the course of this Bible study, you have likely dug up a myriad of painful issues that need to be closed in order for you to go on with your life. Just like having surgery,
once the surgery is finished, it is necessary to close the wound for it to properly heal.
The same is true for your emotional restoration or healing. Since there are differences between the factors to be grieved over there are several issues to consider.
First, there are two levels of grief that must be addressed. For those who have lost a baby either by abortion or miscarriage, stillbirth, or adoption, there is a need to grieve the baby’s loss.
Certainly, if there has been a loss of a loved one, there’s a natural need to grieve that loss.
However, because of the shame associated specifically with abortion, most abortion victims have never been given the opportunity to properly grieve or acknowledge their loss.
Thus, we recommend a grieve closure service be held. On-line, as part of this course, we will provide the service.
The goal of the service is to give you a time in history when everything stops to honor you in your moment of grief.
NEXT: IF I HAVE CAUSED THE LOST A BABY!
NEXT: IF I WAS VIOLATED!