Learn the secret of taking your thoughts captive to Jesus Christ
Sir, each one of us has been given the power to change his or her life.
As part of the Lord’s great plan of happiness, we have the individual agency to make decisions.
We can decide to do better and to be better. In some ways all of us need to change; that is, some of us need to be more kind at home, less selfish, better listeners, and more considerate in the way we treat others.
Some of us have habits that need to be changed, habits that harm us and others around us.
Sometimes we may need a jolt to propel us into changing.
Men are addicted to pornography! With the rise of the high-speed internet, men now have instant access to unlimited porn.
It is just a click away! And when a man watches porn, there is a physiological, psychological and physical change that goes on in his brain and body.
Pornography is ravaging marriages. In our culture porn is treated as if it’s harmless, but it’s not.
Porn will wreck the arousal process in your brain and end up wrecking your sex life in marriage. The effects of porn are devastating.
Do you remember reading about Pavlov and his dog in Psychology? Pavlov would give the dog a nice juicy steak, but right before he did he would ring a bell.
He conditioned the dog to associate ringing the bell with getting great food. Eventually Pavlov took the food away, but kept ringing the bell.
The dog kept salivating at the bell, even though there was no steak, because the dog associated the bell with the food.
The same thing happens when we see porn. Porn stimulates the arousal centers in the brain.
When it’s accompanied by orgasm (sexual release through masturbation), then a chemical reaction happens and hormones are released.
In effect, our brains start to associate arousal with an image, an idea, or a video, rather than a person.
When you don’t watch porn and save yourself until marriage, then all of those chemicals and hormones are released for the first time when you’re with your spouse, and it causes you to bond intensely (and sexually) to your spouse.
But when you spend a ton of time teaching your brain to associate arousal and release with pornography, your brain can’t associate arousal and release with a person anymore.
Either you have to fantasize about the porn, and get those images there, or you have to watch porn first. Often people can “complete the act”, but it’s not intense for them the way porn is.
You’ve rewired your brain, and now you’re salivating at the wrong thing.
Those arousal centers and pleasure centers in our brain are supposed to associate sex with physical pleasure and a real sense of intimacy.
But the intimacy doesn’t happen with porn, and so the pleasure is all that registers.
Thus, sex becomes about the body, and not about intimacy. In fact, the idea of being intimate isn’t even sexy anymore; anonymous is what’s sexy.
We may call “having sex” “making love”, but in reality, they aren’t necessarily the same thing.
Someone who has used porn extensively often has a difficult time experiencing any intimacy during sex because those arousal and pleasure centers zero in only on the body.
God made sex to actually unite us and draw us together; He even gave us a bonding hormone that’s released at orgasm so that we’d feel closer. But if that hormone is released when no one is present, it stops having its effects. Sex no longer bonds you together.
A dramatic change came to Saul when he was on his way to Damascus. Saul had been “breathing out threatenings and slaughter against the disciples of the Lord” (Acts 9:1).
“And he fell to the earth, and heard a voice saying unto him, Saul, Saul, why persecutest thou me?
“And he said, Who art thou, Lord? And the Lord said, I am Jesus whom thou persecutest” (Acts 9:4–5).
Perhaps Saul’s heart had been softened when the mob cast Stephen out of the city and stoned him and laid their clothes at Saul’s feet.
But there was no doubt on the road to Damascus when he heard the voice of the Lord, which said, “I am Jesus whom thou persecutest.”
“And he trembling and astonished said, Lord, what wilt thou have me to do? And the Lord said unto him, Arise, and go into the city, and it shall be told thee what thou must do” (Acts 9:6).
Saul was blind when he arose and had to be taken to Damascus, where his sight was restored to him and he was baptized.
He immediately began to preach “Christ in the synagogues, that he is the Son of God” (Acts 9:20). Saul, who later became known as Paul, experienced a change that was total, absolute, complete, and unwavering until his death.
Sir, you can overcome! Not by pulling yourself up by your bootstraps! Instead, by admitting you are in bondage to this sin, then repenting of this sin so that you can surrender your body, mind, and will to the Lord Jesus Christ.
Here are some practical steps you can take to move away from pornography to victory!
Go do something more interesting instead!
Men when stressed do something. They busy themselves getting something done.
Porn is something you need to “GET IT DONE” as soon as possible. Think for a second sir, what would you rather be doing with time you’ve wasted on porn? Furthering your career? Perfecting playing a musical instrument? Socializing?
Even watching TV can feel more productive. Time isn’t infinite, so rather than spending time worrying about porn viewing or feeling guilty, start focusing on what you really want to do with your time.
Suppose someone spent 40 hours viewing repetitive porn (and porn is repetitive). How good would they become if they used those 40 hours to cook or read or write or go to the gym and work out?
How fit would you be if you ran for those hours or took dance classes or went for a five mile bike ride?
How informed would you be if you viewed the History Channel for that time? What we put into our heads is just as important as the diet we give our bodies.
Remember, when you watch porn suggests the time you need to fill with something else!
The tool you use to watch port should be adapted to block access to porn.
Do something else rather than yield your member to sin.
The best thing you can do is to take your thoughts captive to the captivity of Jesus Christ. All porn watching starts in the mind with a temptation. Learn the secret of overcoming temptations.
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