Renouncing My Hidden Things of Shame


Is forgiving myself a requirement or is it impossible to achieve?

At this point, most wounded people, especially those who have sinned such as those who have aborted their baby, will usually say, “I understand that God can forgive me, but I can’t forgive myself.”

List every reason you blame yourself on your SAD FACE Worksheet:
Complete these sentences:

I can’t forgive myself because…..

Address the issue of forgiving yourself

What are two primary reasons you cannot forgive yourself?

1. Luke 5:21. Who does the Bible say is capable of forgiving sin?

2. If I could forgive my own sin, would Jesus Christ have had to die on the cross?

If I can’t forgive my own self, what can I do?
Please read this carefully : Every person has the innate capacity to ACCEPT WHAT GOD HAS ALREADY DONE THROUGH THE SHED BLOOD OF

He died for the remission of all sin. We each have the capacity to accept this gift of life, liberty, and forgiveness bestowed upon us by what he has already done for us.

How can I feel forgiven when I don’t think I deserve forgiveness?
I John 1:9. “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

What one action does God require of me?
In turn, what does He in turn do for me?

The only action you have to take to receive God’s forgiveness and to feel forgiven is to confess your sins to God, believe in your heart that Jesus died for the remission of your sins and repent, that is turn away from your sins, and change your mind to agree with God about who you are.

To confess your sin requires simply two things:

1. First, to be able to see God for who He really is,
2, Second, to see yourself as God sees you.

No person can forgive himself or herself.

What you can do is begin seeing yourself as God sees you and stop blaming yourself.

Your wounded self image has been distorted by the unforgiveness and unforgiven sin that reminds you of your past.

However, once you confess your sins and forgive others, the reasons for the distortion of your self image are removed.

As you confess your sin of self-condemnation, you should begin to realize a conscious changed feeling of release.

You should feel that your load is just a bit lighter.

What must I do with the memories and emotional ties I have with past lovers or abusers?

As you go about the final stages of letting go, do not overlook the need to break off any soul ties that link you to former sinful experience.

We call these connections ” Soul Ties.” Your soul consists of your mind, will, and emotions.

The Bible calls this your Psuche or soul. It means the natural man.

A soul tie is a strong link to any person that consumes your soul and holds you in bondage.

Often, these are created when you are sexually or spiritually intimate with someone.

Genesis 2:23-24 says that when a man and woman come together, they become one flesh.

Since man consists of a body, a soul, and a spirit when you sexually bond with another person through intercourse, it is believed by some that you
become one with them.

Many women report sexual dysfunctionality following rape, incest, abuse, and abortion.

However, non-victim women and men often speak of phantom ghosts or memories of those they have emotionally bonded emotionally, spiritually, or sexually.

Soul ties may even occur in nonsexual relationships among family members or close friends.

God’s design is that we develop healthy emotional bonds with other people. Take several moments and examine your life history to identify any soul ties that have resulted from your emotional/spiritual/sexual relationships with any person, thing, or place. Soul ties can be broken through renunciation and prayer.

What is the purpose of renouncing my hidden things of shame? How do I accomplish this?


The purpose of this next exercise is to give you the opportunity to confront those hidden things within yourself that stand in the way of you becoming a new person in Christ Jesus. When you forgave others using the “anger stones and bitterness bag”, you were addressing relationships with other people. Now lets deal with only our own self.

For this exercise, we suggest you use a helium-filled balloon.

The goal is for you to write on the balloon every hidden thing of shame that comes to your mind when you pray this simple prayer: “Search me O God…and show me those things within me that are not of you that must go.”

After praying, then you are to release the balloon only as you pray the prayer of renunciation that says, “Father I agree with You that I do not need these things in my life anymore. I renounce them in obedience and agree that You are able to take them away from me forever.”

Here’s a small group at a weekend retreat in Columbia South Carolina.

To prepare for this release exercises, list every thing that comes to your mind when praying “Search Me O God and show me those things in me that are so shameful I hide them.” Write these things on your balloon with a felt-tip marker.

While listing those hidden things, don’t overlook wrong beliefs. What sorts of things should be renounced?

Start by renouncing all things, not of God. False religions have serious overtones.

Demonic possession often occurs during ritual abuse or involvement with occultic practices or religions.

There may still be strong men operative in your life because of the spiritual window once opened to the demonic in your past.

You may have wondered why your attempt to follow Christ has been so hindered all your life.

Hidden things of Shame include:
1. Thoughts
2. Words
3. Deeds

Common things include: lust, masturbation, pornography, adultery, sexual deviancy, habits that are harmful such as smoking, drinking, and drugs.

Other things are isolated to your own life. Pray to uncover what should be on your balloon.


It is important when preparing to renounce your hidden things of shame, that you also renounce every known soul tie to those whom you have been intimate within your life.

Soul ties are created when the man and woman are intimate.

The Bible says they become one flesh. The soul or fleshly ties to those persons defile your marriage bed today (if you are married.)

Pray. Ask God to reveal to you those you need to break any such emotional/ spiritual tie with.

“Dear Lord, Please search my heart and reveal in the innermost place of my heart the name or image of everyone that I need to renounce a relationship with. Anything that is not of you, I ask that you show me so that I can take the proper action to break its hold on me once and for all. In Jesus’ Name.”

The key is to have something you are holding on to, to symbolize your hidden things of shame.

It needs to be something you can release and watch go away to dramatically give you the feeling of a true release.

As the balloon floats away, be conscious of what is being drawn away from your inner-most being.

Realize you cannot take it back. Allow God to clean out your closet!

Release your balloon only after agreeing with God that you do not want the things listed on your balloon to remain in your life.


1. Did you sense a release when you released your balloon?

2. How do you feel now that all those things identified were shoved away and not taken back?

3. Do you feel empty as if there’s nothing left of your “normal” you?

NEXT: What has been lost?

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